Changing Patterns of Marriage Ceremonies (Part-3)
The tradition of “Parrna” was the ultimate resultant of the marriage process. The “barrat” got ready to bring the bride in the groom house. The group of the invited participants went to the house of the bride at a fixed time. There they sat for a while and the participants danced and sang with happiness at the place of the bride. When the barrat came there, the family members and the other invited participants welcomed the “barrat” with happiness.
After reaching at the house of the bride there was a group of people welcomed them. Then the participants of the both families sat and kept silence. After sometime, the “Nikah” Registrar came and started to recite Holy verses of Quran. He filled the Nikah Form and got the signatures of the bride and groom and their witnesses. Then they prayed and there was an exchange of greetings among the participants and parents.
When the Nikah was ensured then the groom was allowed to enter into the house of bride. At the entrance the girls put a “Choonrri” on the ground and requested the groom to break it with his foot. The groom tried two times and broke the pottery item and moved forward to meet her wife.
At the arrival of groom in the bride’s house the custom of offering milk occurred. The sisters of the bride presented a jug of milk which was specially prepared for the groom. The milk was consisted of grinded dried fruits like almond, choara, Pista, Khopra, sugar, alaichi, roh afza, and some other delicious food items.
A glass of that milk was presented to the groom and he drank the half of the glass and passed to the bride to drink. The bride drank that milk presented by the groom and finished. The purpose of this activity was to give a lesson of sharing and love between the new married couple for the new life.
The glass was fully decorated with traditional embroidery work and looking very beautiful in the hands of the couple. After this the sisters of the bride demanded its reward from the groom. The groom gave some money and thanked them. It was a very important task to be done with due care and responsibility.
This was one of the important marriage rite in which the groom went to the all women who were participated in the marriage and asked for prayers and success. The women usually gave him some money and prayers to the groom in the house of the bride. Some women gave him the “Sehry”.
When the all marriage ceremonies ended then there was a time to leave the house of bride’s parents. Then the girls and other women with aged men took the bride with prayers and dropped her in the vehicle of the groom.
During this activity the bride was given the Holy Quran to kiss it and wished for good life. The girls threw rice over the head of bride when leaving the house of her parents. This was a very sad moment because the parents and brothers and sisters of the bride were weeping due to the forever departure of the bride from the house of her parents. Her status was changed due to the marriage. Now she became a wife of her husband.
The guests were waiting for food when the bride was moved to her husband’s house. The bride’s parents and their supporters provided food to the guests invited in the marriage. After this the participants left the house of bride one by one and paid special thanks and congratulations to the parents of bride.
Similarly, when the bride arrived at the house of her husband the participants welcomed them with great pleasure and happiness. They guests were served with food and drinks.
The custom of this event was also significant because the bride demanded some gift from her father in law. The father of the groom gave her considerable amount of money with cattle to his son’s wife.
This was a kind of distribution of cooked rice with chicken to the persons who were invited in the marriage by bride and groom. It usually practiced to enhance the pleasure and sharing of happiness among all members of the society.
It was a kind of feast arranged by the groom for his special guests who were mostly the close friends outside the lineage of the groom. These were neighbours, business men, workers, teachers, students, shop keeper, engineers, doctors, politicians, and land lords etc. It was depended upon the social relations of the groom and his family members. Men and women were served with food items in separate places for the “pardah”culture.
During the ceremony the invited participants gave money and gifts to the groom which were the reciprocating activities performed by him in the past.
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After “Walima” the bride stayed three days in the house of her husband. Then the mother and relatives of the bride came her husband house with sweet and took her to her parents’ house. Bride lived in the house of her parents for two to seven days. This activity is known as “Satto warra”.
The bride stayed her mother and father house for several days. Then the groom’s parents and relatives went to the bride’s parents house with sweets to bring back her to the grooms house.
This exchange of gifts increased the happiness and pleasures of the couple and their parents. During this activity there was an exchange of good words and gifts between the families to strengthen the bond of marriage. The other persons who were invited but did not participated due some problems like illness or travel, came with gifts and apologies to attend the marriages in the future to continue the relations.